It’s been a few days since I made a blogpost here. Even the quote of the week is a day late. That would be this post by the way.
The thing is, I took a few days of. Not only this project, but others I’m working on as well. And I really needed them too. Not that I went on a holiday or anything.
The danger of losing yourself.
When I start something new, I can and often will get sucked in to it. Spend a lot of time on a new project. And that’s normal, and there’s nothing really wrong with it. But it can be a problem if you start neglecting other aspects of your life. Or perhaps neglecting is a strong word, make that put less focus on other aspects of your life.
Only, those aspects usually matter quite a bit. You clean a bit less, the dishes stay undone for an extra day, and most importantly you spend just a tad less time with your loved ones. And even if they understand you and support you, after a while they start getting annoyed by that fact and rightfully so.
Which brings me to one of my favourite quotes of all time, and it’s not even by a real person.
“Life moves pretty fast. If you don't stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” Ferris Bueller.
If you haven’t seen this movie, you absolutely have to. It’s a classic for a reason. Get it on Amazon, Amazon UK or your local store if they have it. It’s about the art of enjoying life to the fullest.
Yes we want to work, we want to be successful. We want to make money so we can take care of our loved ones. But taking care of our loved ones is more then money. In fact if we don’t spend enough quality time with them and help them in things that matter to them, they might soon turn into ‘no longer loved ones’. And you’re left alone with your money (if they don’t pluck you in a messy divorce when married) and your new hobby.
It’s all about balance. We need ‘me’ time as well. When a spouse sucks up all of our energy, it’s not exactly healthy either. But they do deserve the bulk of our attention. That’s what being a loved one is all about!
So that’s why I toned it down a little. This project and some others. I even scraped one altogether. You only have so many hours in a day anyway. This does not mean I’ll quit this blog. I’ll still make a few posts every week. But I won’t get sucked into things anymore… well knowing myself not for a while anyway. In the end knowing myself there’s always the danger of being in that place again.
That’s why I made my first new years resolution in ages. Every last day of the month from now on, I’m doing a bit of soul searching and will evaluate my life. I will look at how I spend my time and energy and try to be honest with myself. I’ll check what I can do without and what in fact needs more of my attention.
I advise you all to do the same. Because life does move very fast indeed.
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